I’ll keep this as short as I can……I have a 2 year old and I am 6 months pregnant. MIL has booked and paid for a family break in the UK 3 weeks after the new baby is due and wants us all to go together.
My Husbad said yes to this without speaking to me, I am a laid back person in general so hes
probably just thought i would be fine with this, and I get on really well with his family.
Since finding out we were all going I have spoken to MIL and raised my concerns that I thought it was a bit too soon after giving birth to go which she agreed with and said try not to worry everyone will be around to help me/us out with the children. 2 x SIL will be their with their partners and one other niece who’s a toddler.
I’ve spoken to my husband today and told him that I just don’t think it’s the right time to go and asked if we could either leave going or ask MIL to consider rearranging the trip to a few months later so we could all go together as i know this is what MIL wants.
I am aware people have booked time off work to go so it may not be viable to rearrange for everyone so explained to my husband if it couldn’t be rearranged then it’s just one of them things and we would miss it and everyone else could go and enjoy themselves.
His response was that I was being difficult and he would just go away with the 2 year old and I could stay at home with the baby.
The break is for 6 days , I feel sad that my 2 year old is going away without me as I am already worried she may feel a bit pushed out when the new baby arrives, I also feel a bit apprehensive about having a newish baby on my own and would like my husband around to help out, he will be on paternity leave.
would I be unreasonable to ask husband not to go? Or am I being selfish and should husband and 2 year old go and enjoy themselves.
I am even starting to think should I just go, suck it up and enjoy some of the help that might get from the other adults there?
Husband can get moody/sulky and I can’t face any tension if I make a fuss about this situation.
