Katie welcomed her 29-year-old son Danny back home after he lost his job, hoping to offer support while he got back on his feet. But six months in, Danny hadn’t filled out a single job application. Instead, he spent his days scrolling TikTok and gaming, while Katie handled groceries, cooking, and laundry—trying to be compassionate without pushing too hard.
Her patience shattered when she overheard Danny joking on the phone: “My mom is basically my free maid. She makes great food and doesn’t nag me too much. It’s chill.” That offhand comment cut deep. Katie wasn’t just helping her son—she was being taken for granted.
Now, every chore feels like enabling. She’s torn between guilt and frustration, debating whether to give Danny a deadline to find work or move out. She fears damaging their relationship but knows something has to change.
Bright Side responded with clarity: love doesn’t mean being a doormat. Boundaries are essential, especially when adult children confuse support with entitlement. Enabling comfort can stall growth. And while Danny’s “free maid” remark stings, the real issue is his behavior—not the words.
The advice? Skip the emotional debate and focus on action. Set expectations. Encourage independence. Protect your peace. Because sometimes, the kindest thing a parent can do is stop making life too easy.
