At just 18 years old, the original poster (OP) and his twin sister are grappling with a deeply personal and emotionally complex situation: their father transitioned into a woman four years ago, and now lives as their mom. While the transition was a courageous act of self-identity, for OP, it’s felt more like a rupture—one that shattered the family’s foundation and left him emotionally stranded.
The transition led to a divorce between OP’s parents, and the twins now live with their trans parent, who retained the family home. She lovingly insists they call her “mom,” but OP finds himself unable to comply. He’s not transphobic, he clarifies—he’s just overwhelmed by the emotional fallout. The bullying he and his sister endured after their father came out was relentless. Classmates mocked them, whispered behind their backs, and turned their home life into a public spectacle. The shame and confusion were suffocating.
Despite his parent’s efforts—spoiling the kids, trying to be present, offering love—OP feels a wall between them. He’s embarrassed, angry, and resentful. He avoids introducing his parent to friends, especially those who knew her before the transition. The emotional weight of seeing his father become someone else is too much to bear, and he admits that he often wishes she would just stay inside to avoid further humiliation.
Online commenters rallied around OP, validating his pain. Many acknowledged that while his parent’s journey was brave, OP’s feelings were also real and deserving of compassion. Some urged therapy, not Reddit, as the place to unpack such trauma. Others reminded him that acceptance takes time—and that healing isn’t linear.
Still, OP’s story is a raw portrait of a young person caught between love and loss, identity and expectation. It’s not just about gender—it’s about grief, change, and the aching need for stability in a world that suddenly feels unfamiliar.
