They were close—years of shared memories, inside jokes, and mutual support. So when the bride planned her wedding, she naturally expected her longtime friend to be there. The friend had RSVP’d yes. She’d even expressed excitement. But when the big day arrived, she was nowhere to be found.
No call. No text. No explanation.
At first, the bride was stunned. Then hurt. Then angry. She waited, hoping for some kind of message that would explain the absence. But days passed in silence. Eventually, she sent a message herself—passive-aggressive, yes, but restrained. She didn’t demand answers, just expressed disappointment.
Still, nothing.
Weeks later, the silence broke—but not with an apology. Instead, the friend left a bizarre voicemail in the middle of the night. She was giggling, shouting profanities, and acting erratically. It wasn’t just confusing—it was insulting. The bride realized this wasn’t just a missed event. It was a complete unraveling of their relationship.
Experts weigh in: Psychotherapist Dr. Steven Berglas calls flakiness a form of “self-handicapping behavior,” often rooted in poor time management and overconfidence. Clinical psychologist Dr. Andrea Bonior adds that some people simply can’t say no, so they say yes and back out later to avoid conflict. And Dr. Richard Koestner of McGill University goes further, linking chronic flakiness to narcissism—a lack of concern for how others feel.
In this case, the friend’s behavior went beyond flakiness. It was emotionally erratic, dismissive, and cruel. The bride never got a real explanation. But she did get clarity: this friendship wasn’t worth salvaging.
Commenters on the original post were quick to support the bride. One wrote, “To expect the person you did wrong to reach out to you is such a narcissistic way to do things.” Another added, “Calling in the middle of the night, giggling and shouting ‘b*tch’ is emotionally deformed behavior.”
The bride moved on. She stopped waiting for closure and started protecting her peace. Sometimes, the absence of an apology is the loudest answer of all.
